It's an exciting prospect, you've been talking to someone for a while, you've had your first date and they've said they'd like to meet up with you again. But do you really think your first date went well enough to warrant pursuing the relationship?
It can be flattering being asked out again following an initial meeting, which can cloud your judgement. This could mean you agree to a second date when there isn't a spark or a chance of it becoming much more.
With this in mind, here are a few things you should consider after your first date.
Did you feel that initial spark?
This is usually the best place to start when it comes to deciding whether a second date is right. Ideally you want to feel an initial connection. If you didn't experience this and the first date a fell a bit flat, or you simply felt like two friends having a chat, it could be a sign that romance isn't on the cards.
Even if a romantic relationship isn't possible, you may find that you've met someone who could be a great mate. However, you should be sure you're on the same page because arranging to meet as friends could lead to some confusion on their part if you haven't made this clear.
Were you bored?
If you found your first date boring and uninteresting, why are you even considering a second? It may sound harsh, but if you weren't engaged or entertained, there is little chance things will improve with a second.
Although nerves can make things awkward on a first date, being bored can come as a result of there being no spark and you having very little in common. This is why it is probably best to simply call it a day.
Were you attracted?
Although personality is a big part of being able to build a great relationship, you also need to be physically attracted to the other party. If you didn't find them attractive, the chances of a successful physical relationship are pretty slim.
It isn't the be all and all, as sometimes you can find someone's personality really attractive even if they don't initially tick your boxes in terms of physical appearance. Judge whether one outweighs the other and make your decision.
Would they get on with your friends?
This is a really important thing to consider, after all, if they won't get on with your friends, can you see the relationship lasting? You want to be with someone who will feel comfortable when around your friends and who will engage in banter and conversation with them.
If they aren't likely to get on with your friends, this can cause issues for you down the line. Ideally, you want to be with someone who will accept you and your friends as this will stop them from disapproving of you going out with them, or of them refusing to hang out with them as well as you.
Would you introduce them to your parents?
While you don't want to throw them in the deep end and introduce them to the folks straight after a first date, this question is worth considering.
If they were inappropriate, rude, had bad manners or swore a lot; they may not be the type of person you want to bring home to meet mum and dad. This can cause issues with a relationship down the line, especially if things get serious.