Meeting someone can be a difficult task, but in this day and age, the internet can really help. Whether you've tried online dating before or are entirely new to it, there are a few things you should remember.
Not following the rules or best practices of online dating can drastically affect your chances of meeting the right person. While you do want to make the most of the whole experience and the fact that you can talk to numerous possible partners, failing to take certain things into account can mean you waste your time or don't find anyone who want to get serious.
So exactly what shouldn't you do when you start your online dating journey? Here are a few tips that could help you find your perfect partner.
Don't get stuck on the details
The small details don't usually matter too much, so you shouldn't let them stop you from talking to someone. Just because they don't like the same movie as you, enjoy a different genre of books or aren't a fan or your favourite food, it doesn't mean they couldn't be your ideal partner.
Beyond the fact that you're never going to find someone who has all the same likes and dislikes, matching up on every point can make things a bit boring. You want to meet someone who can introduce you to new things and ideas; after all, that's what keeps things interesting.
Do they like reading, watching films and trying new foods? That's all you really need to know, so why not say hi?
Don't nitpick over pictures
It can be difficult not to judge people by their photos when online dating. After all, a person's photos are the first look you'll get at their face and body type.
While looks are a big part of attraction, you shouldn't judge too harshly or maintain impossibly high standards. You never know, a person may not photograph well or they may have changed their hair or style since the photos have been taken.
If you're attracted to them at first glance and you have things in common, that should be enough for you to send them a message or a wink. Second guessing yourself will mean that no one ends up being good enough to talk to and you could end up wasting a lot of time.
Don't pay attention to personality claims
People generally suck at being accurate reporters when it comes to themselves, which is why you should take any claims about an individual's personality with a pinch of salt.
Quite often people include personality points in their online dating profiles that they think are true or that represent traits they want to have. This doesn't mean that these things are fact.
You can't tell what someone's personality is like until you talk to them. So, if someone's profile looks good and you seem to have things in common, get chatting to them and discover their personality for yourself.
The only claims you should actually take into account are factual ones. This means age, where they live, their job and education are the main things to pay attention to. If they include funny phrases or smart comments within these, that will tell you a lot more than their view of themselves ever will.
Don't be unrealistic
Talking to someone or having a date is not the same as a relationship. At these stages you are still getting to know each other, so you need to remain realistic.
Creating a fantasy relationship early on will leave you disappointed if things don't work out. It is important that you keep your feet on the ground and takes things as they come rather than planning ahead based on what you want to happen.
Going with the flow is the best thing you can do and will help protect you from hurt feelings if things don't work out. Get to know a person first, spend time with them and then see whether you both want to take things further. This will help you to build meaningful relationships.
Meeting someone can be a difficult task, but in this day and age, the internet can really help. Whether you've tried online dating before or are entirely new to it, there are a few things you should remember. Not following…