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Online dating etiquette for men

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When it comes to online dating, there are a number of things that you can do wrong. Failing to follow the right online dating etiquette could mean it takes you longer to meet someone or result in you losing out on a date with the person who is right for you.

You want to get the most out of online dating so you can meet interesting people and hopefully your future significant other, so following the etiquette is the best way to do this. Not only does this help you navigate the site better and find singletons that are more closely matched, it enables you to have good discussions with those people you meet.

Here are some of our top tips for getting the most out of online dating and not coming off the wrong way.

Be patient

Just because you are logged on and are messaging people doesn't mean the recipients are also online. This means it could take a few hours – or even a couple of days – for someone to respond, especially if you haven't spoken before.

You need to be patient and wait for a response. There is no point in repeatedly messaging them as this is likely to put them off before you've even started a real dialogue.

Stop the abuse

If someone doesn't message you back or tells you they aren't interested, this doesn't mean you can send them abuse. Be a gentleman and move on, there are plenty of people out there so you are bound to find someone better suited.

Swearing at someone or insulting them just because you aren't their type really isn't acceptable online behaviour.

Spam is a fail

You may want to find someone to have a relationship with but that doesn't mean you should spam every pretty girl you come across. Although those you message won't know you have sent one to other girls, it is generally a good idea to avoid doing this.

Taking time to find a few profiles that show women who have similar interests is the best way to go about it. After all, there's no point in starting a conversation with someone who you have nothing in common with. 

Don't be too forward

The point in online dating is to get to know someone, so you should avoid being too forward. Asking for saucy pictures or offering someone sex after a couple of messages is a massive no and is likely to lead to abuse or you being instantly shut down.

Take your time, get to know someone and arrange to meet them before even getting into any of that. Being too forward just makes women think that is all you are after so if you actually want a relationship, you are screwing yourself over.

Nudes are a no

Not only should you not ask for pictures, you shouldn't send them out of the blue. Starting off a conversation or interrupting a civilised one with a picture of your body or sensitive areas isn't the best way to go about online dating. 

You generally want to avoid putting naked pictures on the internet anyway; after all, you never know where they might end up.

When it comes to online dating, there are a number of things that you can do wrong. Failing to follow the right online dating etiquette could mean it takes you longer to meet someone or result in you losing out

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Chopin’s heart exhumed for tests

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Details have emerged of a secret inspection of classical composer Chopin's heart following concerns that the organ may have started to deteriorate. The Romantic composer's heart was taken to Warsaw, Poland following his death – despite his body being buried in Paris.

On his deathbed in 1849, Chopin made the request that his heart be transported to Warsaw. When he passed, it was sealed into a jar of what many believe to be cognac and smuggled into Poland. Once in Warsaw, it was interred in a pillar at Holy Cross Church.

Details have now emerged that reveal a team of 13 people, all of whom were sworn to secrecy, were charged with exhuming the heart on April 14th to check for signs of deterioration. The team included officials, experts, scientists and the archbishop of Warsaw, all who attended the church just before midnight.

Upon removing the heart from the pillar, it was checked over, with hundreds of photos being taken of the organ. The team also used hot wax to further seal the jar in order to stop any more of the preservative liquids from evaporating, which could result in more damage to the heart. Before the jar was returned to the pillar, prayers were said over it by the archbishop.

Many experts have wanted to test Chopin's heart in order to find out whether he died of tuberculosis as is commonly believed. However, the Polish government and church have not given permission for these tests to be performed. The exhumation of the heart was only allowed on this occasion after a scientist warned that alcohol in the preserving liquid may have evaporated.

None of the photos taken by the time have been released to the public. Some people have criticised this and the overall lack of transparency surrounding the exhumation. The next inspection of the heart is not due for another 50 years.  

Details have emerged of a secret inspection of classical composer Chopin's heart following concerns that the organ may have started to deteriorate. The Romantic composer's heart was taken to Warsaw, Poland following his death – despite his body being buried

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Show her chivalry isn’t dead: Top tips for your first date

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The phrase 'chivalry is dead' gets thrown around a lot these days, but is it true? Are you still expected to hold doors and get the bill or is it likely offend your date? This is a minefield of a topic as you get some people telling you that you should follow all the old rules, while others will say you could insult a modern woman.

However, chivalry isn't just about old dating techniques. It is mostly about manners, which you definitely need to have if you want your date to go well. We aren't talking knight in shining armour-style, but there are some actions that are important for any romance.

So what chivalrous things should you do when out on a date or talking to someone online?

Be polite

If you are talking to someone online, you need to remember your manners. A simple conversation could become a date, which could then lead to a relationship so you want to make a good and lasting impression.

Be interested in what she has to tell you, message back in good time and don't lose your temper if it takes her a while to get back to you. Many people seem to forget that everyone fits in online conversations around their everyday lives; this means it can take a while for her to get back to you if she's busy. Remember, when it comes to online dating, patience really is a virtue.

Dress up

If you're going out on a date, especially a first date, it is important to dress appropriately. This may not seem like part of chivalry, but you putting in some effort shows her that you think she's worth it.

Act appropriately

Being polite, complimenting her, saying please and thank you, letting her go first (such as through doors and when ordering), holding doors open and pulling her chair out for her will all make a good impression. These small acts show that you can be attentive to her but polite to everyone around you as well.

You'll also make her feel special and as though you are paying attention to her; both of which are good ways to go if you want to see her again.

Pay the bill 

If this is your first date, you should be sure to pay the bill. Even if she offers to split it, pay the whole thing yourself. Everyone likes to be treated and this is a great way to do it. You can tell her that she can get the next one, which will show that you want to see her again.

Random acts

While out on your date and any subsequent dates, you should show kindness to other people. Doing small things like giving up your seat on busy public transport, helping people struggling with heavy shopping bags or giving assistance with a pram can make a really good impression and show that you're a good guy.

Basically, your job is to prove that chivalry isn't dead. Taking each of these small steps will show you in the best light without going over-the-top. They'll also ensure you are interesting to your date, which means a better chance of seeing her again.

  The phrase 'chivalry is dead' gets thrown around a lot these days, but is it true? Are you still expected to hold doors and get the bill or is it likely offend your date? This is a minefield of

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Sad songs could help you feel happier

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Sad songs can actually make you happy, according to new research. Scientists have suggested that songs with sad tunes and lyrics can actually help improve your emotional wellbeing, bringing on a sense of nostalgia and making you feel more at peace.

According to Liila Taruffi and Stefan Koelsch from the Free University of Berlin, people tend to experience three emotions when listening to sad songs. This shows that more melancholy music elicits a reaction that is more complex than that created by happy songs.

This is according to a survey of 722 people around the world, which was designed to understand how often people listen to sad music and how it makes them feel. The study was published in the online journal Plos One.

Of all the participants in the survey, some 470 respondents gave instances as to when they find sad music appealing, with 108 stating that lost relationships make them listen to this type of music. The next most popular instance was found to be after suffering the loss of a loved one, according to 54 of the participants.

The study suggests that sad music stores up a number of emotions that are partially positive, such as tenderness, nostalgia, wonder, transcendence and peacefulness. It found that music-evoked sadness resulted in four emotional awards: empathy, emotion regulation, no 'real-life' implications to the music, and imagination.

Ms Taruffi told the Huffington Post: "The most frequent emotion evoked was nostalgia, which is a bittersweet emotion — it's more complex and it's partly positive. This helps explain why sad music is appealing and pleasurable for people."

Respondents to the survey, which was posted online, were asked to name compositions that they thought of as being sad. Popular choices were Purcell's Dido's Lament, Barber's Adagio for Strings and Mahler's Symphony Number Five.

The researchers have suggested that these findings could be used to develop musical therapies, such as through inducing the emotional rewards to impact in a positive manner on a patient's wellbeing.

Sad songs can actually make you happy, according to new research. Scientists have suggested that songs with sad tunes and lyrics can actually help improve your emotional wellbeing, bringing on a sense of nostalgia and making you feel more at

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Julian Rachlin appointed as principal guest conductor

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Royal Northern Sinfonia has appointed violinist Julian Rachlin as its principal guest conductor. The 39-year-old made his first conducting appearance with the Sinfonia back in October 2013, going on to lead the Czech Philharmonic, Israel Philharmonic and the Academy of St Martin in the Fields. 

Mr Rachlin performed with the Sinfonia as a soloist and appeared as conductor last week (November 14th) at Milton Court, London. The performance included Mozart's Violin Concerto Number Five, Schnittke's Sonata Number One and Beethoven's Symphony Number Seven.

The violinist was the youngest to appear as a soloist with the Vienna Philharmonic at the age of 14 and appears the youngest to have ever appeared with the orchestra. Gramophone reports that in 1995, at just 19 years old, Mr Rachlin had already recorded twice for Sony Classical.

At the time, he told an interviewer from the publication, Andrew Achenbach: "When I'm playing, I really want to tell the people something, to move something within them, and I believe that the public will always respond to any artist who is genuinely trying to convey some sort of emotional message. After all, why should we be ashamed of expressing our innermost feelings?"

When Mr Rachlin first conducted with the Royal Northern Sinfonia last year, it was reported that there was a good connection between him and the players. The fact that he has now been appointed as principal guest conductor shows that this chemistry is still there.

Northern Sinfonia's music director, Lars Vogt, said of the appointment: “I am delighted that Julian Rachlin is going to be principal guest conductor of Royal Northern Sinfonia! I know him as an immense creative force, with incredible insight, and deep emotional connection with any music he touches. 

"His sense of experiment, colour and freedom makes his interpretations so wonderfully unpredictable and exciting – exactly the qualities that our orchestra relishes. Welcome, Julian!”

Royal Northern Sinfonia has appointed violinist Julian Rachlin as its principal guest conductor. The 39-year-old made his first conducting appearance with the Sinfonia back in October 2013, going on to lead the Czech Philharmonic, Israel Philharmonic and the Academy of

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5 signs the end is nigh

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So, you've met a compatible partner, settled down and are enjoying your happily ever after. What more do you need? Unfortunately it isn't always that easy and not every relationship is bound to last.

Even if you are happy, your partner might not be. This could mean that things are about to get rocky and you could either end up working things out or totally breaking apart.

If you are content in your relationship, it can come as a bit of a shock when your partner turns around and says they aren't. If it gets to this point, it may already be too late. 

However, if you pick up on the signs that your partner might be looking for something else from your relationship, it could help you fix things and keep both of you happy.

Here are some of the common signs that a breakup could be imminent. 

They make important decisions

If your partner has stopped asking for your input when it comes to important decisions, this could show they no longer value your opinion. While some couples may be happy to trust each other to decide things, if it is out of the ordinary; it could be a bad sign.

This is especially the case when it is a decision about their future – such as accepting a job across the country – if they don't talk to you about it beforehand, it would seem that they aren't thinking of their future as the same as yours. While you may be happy to move with them for that job, their failure to talk to you about it might indicate they'd rather you not bother.

They stop asking you about your day

When your partner stops asking you about your day, it could show they don't really care. If recapping on your day used to be part of your normal routine and they have either stopped initiating the conversation, or only talk about their day, you might want to bring it up with them.

While this is only a small thing, it could be a sign that something big is wrong. Talking it through will help you understand what is going on with them. It could be that something else has got them down, or it could be something as simple as them thinking your relationship is in a rut.

Picking up on this small sign early on could save your relationship. 

They snap all the time

If your partner has started snapping at you constantly or is turning every little thing into an argument, it could be a sign that they aren't happy. This is usually a big sign that something is going on, especially if you have very rarely argued in the past.

Every little thing you do could be irritating them, they could be coming home in a bad mood everyday or they may be making something out of absolutely nothing. Whatever they are arguing with you about, this could be spelling the end of your relationship.

They don't include you

You might find that your partner is going out a lot without you, not informing you of their plans or just not factoring you in at all. If they are coming home late a lot, don't call you or text you during the day to say they are going out or don't ask you to come along, it could mean they don't want to spend time with you.

If this is coupled with them wanting more privacy and avoiding being with you, it is a very bad sign. You should ask them about it rather than just waiting at home for them to finally talk to you.

They don't want to be physical

Every relationship goes through periods where sex isn't a big factor, but if your partner avoids any physical contact with you, this is not good. 

A loving relationship has a physical side to it, which includes touching, hugging, kissing and intercourse. Missing out on one of these probably isn't a big deal, but when your partner is avoiding all of them, the alarm bells should be ringing.

If they don't want to touch you and don't want you to touch them, this is something that needs to be addressed. Failing to try and sort it out almost guarantees the end to your relationship.   

If your relationship can't be saved, don't fret. There are plenty of other people out there and Classical Music Lover can help you find your perfect match. 

So, you've met a compatible partner, settled down and are enjoying your happily ever after. What more do you need? Unfortunately it isn't always that easy and not every relationship is bound to last. Even if you are happy, your

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7 signs she’ll go on a second date

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A first date can be a stressful experience, as well as a lot of fun. It is the first opportunity you have to get to know someone face to face, which can create a lot of anxiety. But if you've made it through the first date without any issues, it is time to start looking forward to the second outing.

However, even if you think the date went well, she might feel differently. This could lead to an awkward exchange when you ask her out again and she refuses. If this happens, it can leave you feeling a bit downhearted and confused, especially if you thought things went really well.

To avoid this happening, keep an eye out for signs that she would be up for seeing you again. Here are some of our top signs that a second date would be a good idea.

Good conversation

If you have great conversation – without one person dominating it – and avoid awkward silent moments, the chances are she will be engaged enough to want a second date. 

However, if you only talk about yourself, fail to ask her questions, talk about your ex or just talk at her; the chances are she won't want a repeat performance.

Maintaining focus
 
If your date is staying focused on you rather than checking her phone or chatting to other people, it is generally a good sign. Failing to keep her engaged means she will become bored, which won't leave the best impression.

Body language

This is a fundamental way to tell whether your date is having a good a time. If she makes eye contact, leans towards you, smiles and casually touches you, these are all signs that a second date could be imminent.

If she fails to look at you, keeps her arms crossed, moves away from you and avoids any touching, she probably won't return your call.

Ignoring calls

If your date's phone goes off but she ignore it, or turn it off, this is a great sign. It means she wants to make the most of your date and enjoy the time she is spending with you.

For those times when she answers the phone, constantly checks it or picks it up after every notification; don't even bother trying to get a second date. Not only is she not interested, she's also quite rude, and you don't need that.

They tell you

When your date makes a point of telling you she are enjoying herself and is having a great time, there really is no better sign. While someone might tell you this out of habit or politeness, if it is accompanied by any other signs, it is looking good.

Be sure to tell her that you are also enjoying yourself; otherwise she might end up thinking you aren't as interested as she is.

They keep things going

If your date tries to keep the date going, she is obviously enjoying spending time with you. This is another great sign and could indicate she would be open to you arranging a second date there and then.

A kiss

Enjoying an end-of-night kiss is one of the most obvious and unmissable signs that she enjoyed your date. It shows that she thinks you have chemistry and that she would like to see you again.

If you don't get a kiss, it doesn't necessarily mean you aren't in with a chance, especially if she has been showing you all the positive signs. It could just mean that she wants to take things at a gentle pace. 

However, if you get an awkward handshake, silence or they just say 'bye', you might want to write the night off. 

A first date can be a stressful experience, as well as a lot of fun. It is the first opportunity you have to get to know someone face to face, which can create a lot of anxiety. But if you've

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Candy Crush gets new symphonic soundtrack

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Candy Crush Saga has a new classical twist as King Digital Entertainment look to create the same level of success it has seen with the original game, reports Classic FM. It is thought the success of Candy Crush Saga is responsible for around half of King's revenues and so the sequel has a lot to live up to.

The second game in the series – Candy Crush Soda Saga – will feature improved gameplay, graphics and a classical soundtrack. Johan Holmstrom, in-house composer for Kind Digital Entertainment, told the news reporter:  “The whole experience is crucial. The new game needed a more organic sound to bring the whole package together."

Most of the music for Candy Crush is composed digitally by Mr Holmstrom, however; he said that it would have been impossible to create the same quality of sound without using the London Symphony Orchestra (LSO). This has resulted in a higher class of music being included in the soundtrack for the new game.

Mr Holmstrong said that working with Classic FM's Orchestra was a "mind-blowing experience", while working with such a large number of musicians was a challenge. The process took a number of weeks and resulted in a last-minute increase in orchestra size.

Gareth Davies, principal flute for the LSO, said: "It was great fun. I played the original game. Having a soundtrack recorded by a group of live musicians will really take Candy Crush Soda Saga to the next level."

The new symphonic soundtrack features in the second game in the series, which was soft launched in May. The Facebook launch for the game took place on October 20th, while the phone app is due to be available in December.

It is not yet clear whether King can expect a similar level of success with the second in the series, however; users have already reported that the graphics are improved and the soundtrack is brilliant. This suggests that Candy Crush's popularity may continue.

Candy Crush Saga has a new classical twist as King Digital Entertainment look to create the same level of success it has seen with the original game, reports Classic FM. It is thought the success of Candy Crush Saga is

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How to keep the romance alive

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If you have found someone special that you would like to maintain a relationship with, you may find it difficult to keep the romance alive the longer you are together. This isn't a sign that your relationship is going downhill, it just tends to happen as two people get more comfortable with each other.

Once the initial rush of a new partner wears off and you begin to get more serious, it tends to be more difficult to keep up with the same level of romance. While this is perfectly normal, you don't want to let the initial excitement disappear completely as it could eventually mean the end for you both.

If you notice that romance has been on the back burner for a while, it can be a good idea to try and bring it to the forefront of your relationship to keep things fresh and ensure the feelings last.

Here are some great ways you can be more romantic with your partner without having to spend large amounts of time or money.

Date nights

Try setting aside one day a week or a couple of days during a month for date nights. These can be something simple like having a meal or going to the cinema, or you can go all out and make each one extra-special – it's entirely up to you.

This means you have regular nights when you can just spend time together and get away from all the stresses of everyday life. This is an especially good idea if you both have very busy schedules as you can guarantee that you get to see each other.

Surprises

Treating your partner to a surprise every now and then can really go a long way to keeping the romance alive. Whether you get them a bunch of flowers, a box of chocolates, tickets to a show or a holiday; little surprises can keep things fresh and show how much you care.

You don't need to do this a lot, but just every once in a while – even if it's something small – shows that you still think about them and want to make them happy.

Little touches

Doing things around the house that you know your partner hates may seem like something little but it actually shows them how much you care. If they don't like emptying the bins, doing the vacuuming or going food shopping, taking it on yourself to let them off the hook every now and then shows that you want to make them happy.

It also means they are likely to be in a better mood when they get home, allowing you to get on with your evening and spend more time together.

Three little words

Saying 'I love you' to your partner everyday goes a long way towards keeping the romance alive. This doesn't mean you should just say it out of habit or say it once and that be enough; you should ensure they know you mean it everyday.

You should couple these three little words with hugs, kisses and small touches such as holding their hands. Physical contact and a vocal expression of your feelings reinforce your relationship and can add a tiny touch of romance to every day.

If you have found someone special that you would like to maintain a relationship with, you may find it difficult to keep the romance alive the longer you are together. This isn't a sign that your relationship is going downhill,

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Wimbledon International Music Festival to return this month

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Classical music lovers have an exciting month ahead of them as the Wimbledon International Music Festival is set to return on November 8th. The inspiring festival runs until November 23rd, showcasing some of the best musical talent around and giving fans the opportunity to see a number of shows.

This year, the events are centred around the theme of War and Peace, with one of the biggest performances set to be a production of Stravinsky's The Soldier's Tale. The production will be taking place on November 9th, giving people the chance to see one of two performances on the day.

The production will be creating a contemporary feel, with the action taking place as though it is a computer game. This is supported by Arts Council England, with smartphone use, a parachute drop in and projections all being used to bring the production into the modern age.

Conducted by Robin O'Neill, the show will also include Clarinettist Michael Collins, Robert Maskell as the narrator and a dance choreographed by Kanmara Gray from Artistry Youth Dance.

As well as the Soldier's Tale, the festival features some of the best classical music talent around. It will open on November 8th with the Academy Choir and Baroque Players, With Denis Kozhukhin playing on November 10th.

On November 12th, you'll have the chance to enjoy the Myrthen Ensemble, which is comprised of four solo singers and pianist Joseph Middleton. The Ensemble will be performing a concert of Anthems for Doomed Youth, which includes songs from Schubert and Ned Rorem. 

The Borodin Quartet will also be performing at the festival on two occasions. The Quartet will perform on November 15th, showcasing Beethoven, Shostakovich and Tchaikovsky, while on November 16th it will perform the Mozart clarinet, Borodin and Schubert.

You can enjoy the festival at various locations in Wimbledon, with free lunchtime concerts taking place on alternate weekdays.

With such a host of different performances taking place, the festival is the perfect opportunity to enjoy some classical music with a partner. You're sure to find something for all tastes and to suit everyone's schedules.

Classical music lovers have an exciting month ahead of them as the Wimbledon International Music Festival is set to return on November 8th. The inspiring festival runs until November 23rd, showcasing some of the best musical talent around and giving

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